John, 52, the farm operator, is worried about the deteriorating health of his father, Ed, 72 years old. Ed has been experiencing shortness of breath and has been coughing and wheezing consistently for the past week. This has led to a decrease in activity.

Attitude: Be respectful but concerned.

Preparation: Determine if other family members are aware of Ed's condition. Talk to the family doctor about your concern so that you have a professional's opinion to refer to.

Timing: It is best to discuss the concern shortly after noticing the onset. If not treated properly, the father's health problem may become worse.

Behavior: Approach this situation carefully, Always reinforce that the parent is ultimately in charge of his/her own health.